Writing is not always fun and joy. In fact, I’d say a lot of writing is not fun and joy. But it is deeply rewarding, and that’s why we do it.
Right now, I’m finding it hard to move on from one manuscript (in the query trenches) and focus on the next. There are no guarantees in writing, and when you’ve put years and tons of work into a book, learning to be okay with possibly nothing happening with it can be soul-crushing.
So how do you stay motivated and optimistic in the face of rejection?
Take a break
First thing’s first: Don’t buy into the myth that you have to write every day. You don’t.
I find that I operate best when I hold myself to a schedule that works for me. Consistency is what matters. I consider sitting down for a writing session (including preparing/building scenes or doing research — whatever keeps me grounded in my book’s world) five days a week to be a respectable, manageable goal.
That’s just me. Find what works for you, and for god’s sake, cut yourself some slack. You are not a machine. You can still (and should) have a semblance of a social life, even as a writer. It’s healthy for you.
Forget about numbers
Some writers keep on track by giving themselves daily, weekly, or monthly word count goals. I find this incredibly demotivating.
Instead, I focus on accomplishing quarterly goals. To push myself, I might set a goal like, “Finish Act I.” When it’s done, it’s done.
I always freeze up when I look at word count, especially since I’m an underwriter. My internal dialogue goes something like, Ugh god this scene was only 800 words how am I supposed to write a 80,000 word novel at this rate, this is IMPOSSIBLE. Cue the self-doubt and worthlessness.
That’s bad. Stop it. Don’t worry about word count. You can always add more in revision.
Watch (or read) something that inspires you
Sometimes just listening to or reading the advice of other writers can give you the shot of inspiration you need to get your butt back to work.
“Booktube” and the community of authors/writers on YouTube always gets me pumped and excited about stories — both reading and writing them. I love Ava Jae, Kim Chance, Rachael Stephen, Lindsay Cummings, and Kristen Martin, for example.
And there’s no better reminder of why you’re in the writing game than reading a book so damn good that it makes you want to learn to be that good, too.
Look at the bigger picture
Writing is hard, but guess what? You’re a rockstar. You’ve got this. You’ve written thousands of words before this — hell, whole manuscripts, even. And you’re getting better every step of the way.
Becoming a good writer is practice. We lose sight of the big picture because writing a single book (over one, two, or more years) is the equivalent of one dance performance, one bicycle race, or one marathon. Ain’t nobody got our level of determination.
Fucking embrace it
I know it sucks (believe me, I do), but sometimes you just gotta work through the pain.
If you hate the thought of sitting down to write, or if you think you’re a shitty writer — well, you can still feel that and put fingers to keys, or pen to paper.
Use that anger and frustration and agony as fuel — forget all about showing others you can do it. Show YOURSELF you can do it.
It doesn’t have to be perfect — you just need to get the words out. So yes, you can get this piece of shit done. You WILL be an author.
Because you’re a fucking badass, that’s why.