Being a writer is a profession nobody seems to understand. Do you sit around all day in your pajamas? Do you use a fancy pants typewriter? Are you just making elaborate fantasy maps all day?
The answer to all of these is “usually no.”
So what’s the deal? Well … let me clear up a few misconceptions.
Nobody has time to write
We make time. That’s how it happens. Magic, right?
Pretty much all of us have day jobs, social obligations, errands to run, and various other life responsibilities.
Writing the book is the easy part
You heard me. Writing the book is the easy part.
What’s hard is revising it multiple times based on feedback from critique partners and betas, perfecting your query, snagging an agent even after they request a partial or full manuscript, staying motivated / patient while you receive a lot of criticism and rejection or radio silence, getting a book sold to a publisher, etc. etc.
It takes more than an idea
Trust me, just because you have cool ideas and great life stories and your friends love them does not mean they will be golden when you sit down to write them out.
Telling a good story out loud and writing a good story are two very different tasks.
We don’t do it to get rich
There’s very little money in writing. The Stephen Kings and J.K. Rowlings of the world are the 1 percent.
Nobody becomes an author to make millions. Most don’t even make enough to quit their day job. We write because we love it — because writing, though incredibly hard most of the time, gives us an incredibly genuine sense of fulfillment.
Mental illness is not a prerequisite
We all know the stereotype: Writers are loners, losers, drunks, cat ladies/guys, and all-around crazy people who stick their heads in ovens.
While many famous authors have suffered from mental illness, most research on the link between mental illness and creativity is lacking. Writers can be gorgeous, happy, social people. They can be short, tall, skinny, fat, gay, straight, white, black, and every shade in between. Yes, they can also have depression, anxiety, or any other number of mental health issues. And yes, there’s a lot of self-doubt, self-criticism, and self-loathing that accompanies the writing life.
But it’s important not to glamorize mental illness or position it as a prerequisite to being a legitimate creative person. A mentally ill person won’t “lose” their creativity if they get better. If anything, their illness is as much a detriment, if not more so, to their writing (and their life) as it is a factor in their success.
Asking us what we’re writing is a BIG question
Um, so, I don’t know if you realize this, but asking writers what our books are about is a question that FILLS US WITH DREAD.
Summarizing tens of thousands of words into a few sentences and making them sound cool is super hard. So hard that writers call that summary “the elevator pitch,” and it takes a lot of thinking and effort to make it good.
Of course, that means we need to actually create and memorize our elevator pitch before we can tell you it. So try to be understanding and kind if we’re not quite ready to share.
We work even when we’re not feeling inspired
Key word being “work.” Writers have deadlines. Yes, sometimes, if we’re un-agented, we set deadlines and goals for ourselves because otherwise we’d never finish our books — but rest assured, these are real deadlines and goals, and we appreciate when you respect them.
What we don’t do is write only when we’re feeling inspired or are on vacation or enjoying a perfect day or the kids are out. “This shit is easy,” said no writer ever. We write whenever we can, as often as we can, even when the words don’t want to flow and we’d rather be watching Netflix because writing is fucking difficult.
Writing is actual work. Legitimate work. Like, there’s business involved and stuff.
Being unpublished doesn’t mean we’ve failed
Probably one of my biggest fears — and I think a lot of writers’ fears — is that if we don’t have a big agent or a three-figure book deal and our books aren’t being made into movies (reality: 99 percent chance all that is not going to happen), then people will think we’re hacks and that we’re cute for trying but we should probably give up now and find a nice office job.
This is not a realistic measure of our success.
1) It takes years to write and revise a manuscript. Years. It’s a slow process.
2) Most writers’ debut books are not the first book they’ve ever written.
3) Sometimes, after you get an agent, your book goes on submission but then nothing happens.
4) Even if a publisher picks up your book, it takes years before it’s actually in print.
So if we don’t have “good news” or any real update for you and it’s been months since we last talked, please be patient. We have to be.
We really, really wish you’d buy our books
If we are lucky enough to get our book published, you buying it means more than you know. After all, as you just learned, we work on these things forever.
If you buy and read the book, extra points!
If you leave a review online — we’ll love you forever!
There are a lot of real, meaningful ways you can show your support beyond a simple congratulations.
What real writing looks like.
Writing is ‘boring’
If you haven’t picked up on this yet, the writer’s life is kind of boring. It involves a lot of waiting. In fact, when we’re querying or our books are on submission, we refresh our inboxes a lot. Like, A LOT.
It’s certainly not glamorous like on TV. Most of us aren’t Richard Castle.
So please, please, please — don’t ask us when the movie is coming out.
If you have any questions about what it’s like to be a writer, please leave them in the comments below, and I’ll do my best to answer them.